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Wednesday, 15 July 2009

  • A Picture Plus a Thousand Words:



    Yesterday my friend Mei and I decided to ride the train to Chicago to meet up with my guy Steve and spend some time on the beach. Mei and I got on the train and decided to take seats on the second level because there weren't as many people up there. During our trip, I heard the men behind us talking about how "God is love and he's coming to save us etc." The children who were with them ran back and forth around the train and were generally making all the other passengers miserable with their obnoxious behavior.
    Fast forward to the beach and the above photo.
    Steve had arrived and I was greeting him with a simple little peck on the lips. There was no tongue involved, no groping, no penis on display, just a kiss and a hug. Mei decided to document the meeting with a picture that really couldn't have been timed any better.
    Just as I'm leaning away from the kiss with my shit-eating "this-guy-makes-me-happy" grin on my face (see above), I hear "HEY! Do you guys mind?"
    My thoughts went immediately to what the probable cause of this interjection was: He's mad that two men are kissing, even though there are plenty of hetero couples engaged in far more lewd acts all around us. My very automatic, and very immature response was to flip the guy off while i leaned in for another kiss (again, see above). I promise I didn't realize his kids were right there, or I would have tried to refrain from flipping the bird.
    Anyway, after another quick peck, Steve decides to ask what the problem is.
    Douche-bag guy (who, it just so happens, is the same "god is love" guy we rode on the train with) says that he doesn't want his children to see "that type of thing."
    Steve asks if the fact that there are hetero couples engaging in much worse PDA offends him and douche-bag guy responds with "Well, that's different."

    I was offended, but not necessarily surprised, and decided to just remove myself from the situation. Steve did the same, but we both had to physically restrain Mei so that she wouldn't go and punch the man in his face. We commiserated with her that we were indeed upset, mostly about the fact that douche-bag's children are probably going to grow up just as intolerant as him. We told her there wasn't anything she could do that would change his mind, and we decided to pack up and leave the beach in favor of more friendly locations.

    I'm just sad that I still have to deal with this stuff. I'm not "flaunting my sexuality," or "corrupting the youth." I'm simply giving my boyfriend a kiss after he's been at work all day. I know my reaction wasn't the most mature thing I could have done, but I'm at a loss as to what would have helped.

    Thoughts?

Friday, 26 June 2009

  • The Problem:

    “There is no reason for love. It just is. And when it’s there, it endures, even when it shouldn’t.  Even when you try to make it go away. It’s hard to make it die. I’ve learned it’s also unnecessary- and unwise.  It only lessons you for it. So you accept it. You lock it away. You let it stay. You don’t deliberately kill love. You just don’t act on it…  But hate is different. If you are going to hate, you should at least have a reason.”

    ~ Rhapsody in Destiny by Elizabeth Haydon

Tuesday, 02 June 2009

  • Can'tstopwon'tstopWhy?

    Brain racing, words falling (flowing?). Failing.
    Hands writing (righting?) the wrongs they've made.
    Pen (pin?) scratching words into paper (flesh?) that doesn't seem to feel.
    Dog scratching (stretching?) after fleeing (feeling?) the unknown.

    I don't know (care?) where it (I?) went wrong.
    We loved (love?) each other.
    Forever we said, and meant.
    We moved away (apart?) but not on.

    When will (can?) it end?
    It won't it won't it won't.
    This doesn't end, this love (lust? loss?) we share.
    We lay (lie?) together.

    Alone together.
    Apart together.
    In sin together.
    In awe together.

    Do you think (obsess?) about me?
    This love is real (reel?).
    Can'tstopwon'tstopWhy?
    I (kneed? knead?) need you.

Wednesday, 27 May 2009

  • The Validity of Proposition 8

    Alright guys, settle in for a long(ish) one.

    DISCLAIMER: As a guy who just so happens to be a homo, I absolutely believe that same-sex couples should be allowed to get married. It absolutely blows my mind that the people of California voted to "Eliminate the right of same-sex couples to marry." Who votes to eliminate rights? But we'll come back to that.

    THE ISSUE:
    All of the crazy religious nutjobs conservatives of California got their panties tied into a knot when the California Supreme court ruled that gays did indeed have the right to get married under the current constitution. So what did they do? The set up Proposition 8: Eliminate the rights of same-sex couples to marry. (This is the actual full name of Prop8). They petitioned, they pleaded, they prayed, and they passed the damn thing in the November 4th general election.
    What did this mean? The California constitution now bears an amendment to Article I entitled section 7.5. This amendment states simply that "only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California." Keep in mind that during the time same-sex marriage was legal, more than 18,000 same-sex couples were married.

    The Rebuttal: All of the homos, liberals, and clear thinking people in California decided that they didn't like this amendment, and they wanted it overturned. The California Supreme Court accepted 3 cases dealing with the validity of Prop8 and its possible retro-active effects. I can't stress this next point enough, so it's going to be in all italics:
    The Court was NOT ruling on the validity of same-sex marriage; they were ruling on if the amendment was properly voted in to the constitution.

    The Legal Jargon:
    Here's the core of the Supreme Court's issue: there are two ways to change the constitution in California.
    1) Amendment: This requires only a majority vote by the people to be put into the constitution because it reflects a minor change, not a significant change in policy. This is was Prop8 passed as.

    2) Revision: A revision represents a "change in the basic nature of the constitution," and has to pass a 2/3 vote in the state legislature before it can be put to vote by the people.

    Those against Prop8 argued that it was a revision, not an amendment, and therefore was invalid. To me, this makes sense; I don't believe that the California Constitution allowed a vote by the majority to take away the rights of a minority before, so this would certainly be a significant change in the basic nature of the constitution and how the state is run - but I digress.

    The Decision:
    The California Supreme Court, in a 6-1 vote, ruled that Prop8 was indeed just an amendment and not a revision of the constitution.
    On the issue of whether or not it was retro-active: they decided that the 18,000 couples were allowed to remain married, but could not remarry upon death or divorce of the current spouse. This decision was arrived at because the couples were married before the amendment was passed, and thus the marriages were perfectly legal.

    In Defense of the Justices:
    Judges are NOT policy makers. They simply serve to interpret the existing law, and make sure it is carried out. They are NOT allowed to legislate from the bench, and can only stick to the facts of the case and what the law itself says. Their personal feelings are not allowed to impinge upon their decisions in any way shape or form. Keep in mind that this is the SAME set of judges that said same sex couples absolutely had the right to marry about a year ago. What's changed in the law since then? Prop8. Prop8 now makes it illegal for two people of the same sex to get married, but it was passed into law according to the proper procedures.

    The Dissenting Voice:
    Justice Carlos Moreno was the only vote against Prop8, and here's what he has to say on the issue: To allow a majority of voters to deprive one minority group of its rights is to put "at risk the state constitutional rights of all disfavored minorities."
    Sounds like a revision to me too, Your Honor.

    Course of Action:
    In order to overthrow this "amendment" to the California Constitution, the people of California have to pass ANOTHER amendment that essentially nullifies the one passed before. They just have to stand up and say that they believe that marriage is between ANY two loving, consensual, adults regardless of their gender. The Supreme Court Justices aren't going to hear this case again, they've made their decision and will more than likely stick to it.

    MY Two Cents:
    I'm not saying that people have no right to be mad; of course you should be mad! Human beings are being denied their rights simply because they don't have a large enough majority to protect them. This is wrong, and it's a very slippery slope I wish we hadn't even started down. Stand up for yourselves and your fellow humans, people of California! Overturn Prop8 yourselves with a NEW amendment guaranteeing the right of ALL people to marry. It'll take time, and work, and frustration, but the fight is certainly worth it.

Saturday, 11 April 2009

  • Random Acts of Kindness

    So tonight after work (I work as a barista at a Barnes and Noble cafe) I went to dinner with these two girls I work with. As with any gathering of co-workers, the talk quickly turned to annoying customers and how ignorant people make our job so much harder.
    There was an old(ish) man sitting by himself eating at the table next to us, and I saw him laugh at one or two of our comments (particularly when my friend said "I hate it when customers walk up to me and.. Actually, no. End of sentence.")
    Well he finished eating, paid his bill, and walked over to our table. He said "I wanna thank you kids for entertaining me tonight. I hope your job doesn't make you too cynical too quickly."
    And then proceeded to put a $20 bill on our table (almost enough to pay for our three meals), and walked away before we could say anything to him, let alone give him his money back.
    It was really unexpected, but obviously really heartwarming for all of us.
    It made me think a little about how working at jobs where you serve people just generally creates a negative viewpoint, and how it's sad that I can't think of any reason why it shouldn't. We get to see people how they are when their friends aren't around, when "nobody important" is watching them, when they can wallow in their ignorance and not feel ashamed.
    The world is full of shitty people, but people like that old man more than make up for it.

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  • "What is it about us human beings, anyway? How can we possibly hurt each other as much as we do and still feel so put-upon while we're doing it? I sometimes feel we would all benefit greatly from having our lives recorded and played back so we could see every wrong move we make from a spectator seat; every harmful remark and then a close-up on the eyes of the person we're talking to."

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